How do I handle a passive-aggressive boss?

Being on the receiving end of passive-aggressive behaviour can be infuriating — and it gets even more complicated when the person dishing it out can fire you. Moreover, dealing with a passive-aggressive boss can be challenging, but there are several strategies that you can use to handle the situation. Here are some tips to help you keep your cool (and your job).

Stay Calm: One of the most important things you can do is to remain calm and professional when dealing with your boss. If you get angry or frustrated, it will only fuel their behaviour.
Take the high road. You may want to talk back or complain about your boss’ behaviour. Don’t. It damages your credibility and may very well make your manager’s behaviour toward you even worse.
Set Boundaries: You can set clear boundaries with your boss by letting them know what is and isn't acceptable behaviour. For example, if they send you a sarcastic email, you can respond by saying, "I prefer that we communicate in a direct and respectful manner."
Communicate Directly: Try to communicate directly with your boss, as this will help to avoid misunderstandings. If your boss gives you vague instructions, ask for clarification so that you can make sure you are meeting their expectations.
Clarification is key. If you have a boss who tends to blindside you with new information, try to beat them to the punch and ask clarifying questions in advance. The more you know, the less ammo they have.
Document Everything: Keep a record of any interactions with your boss that are passive-aggressive or hostile. This can be helpful if you need to escalate the situation to HR.
Seek Support: It can be helpful to seek support from coworkers, friends, or family members when dealing with a difficult boss. You may also want to consider talking to a therapist or coach to help you navigate the situation.
Save your face, and theirs. Rather than matching his or her behaviour, ask if there’s something about your performance that they want to be different. The earnest, respectful route may very well neutralize the situation.

Remember, it's not your responsibility to change your boss's behaviour, but you can control how you respond to it. By setting boundaries, communicating directly, and seeking support, you can effectively handle a passive-aggressive boss.